There’s no need to despair if you happen to be a parent of a clingy preschooler. By simply following these tips, you can immediately avoid drama when you finally decide to take your child to the daycare
If you are worried that you are alone and that your child is experiencing too much drama every single time you try to leave him to a daycare center, you should definitely know that you are not alone in this world. In fact, most parents experience this not-so-worth-looking-forward-to moment in their lives every single time they try to bid their child goodbye.
You also probably notice how rowdy and discourteous your child starts to become every time you talk to him about daycare. This is because children normally get and feel apprehensive to be away from their parents even for very short hours because that is something that they are used too. Although you have talked to them and have told them that they can actually have fun, play with other children, watch educational videos and more in their daycare center, this seems never to be enough to console them. What to do now? Don’t even think that you should despair because all you have to do is follow these tips and you can be assured of bidding that drama goodbye for good!
Pair transition time with special time
In the mornings or when you first get home after work, make a point of spending five or ten minutes with your child, paying attention just to him or her. A satisfied child is usually a well-behaved one.
Don’t physically carry your child into school or daycare if he or she can walk. Let the child walk in beside you and put his or her own things away — coats, lunch, other items to be stored in the locker or cubby. You’ll find that independent kids are far less likely to cling when you need to be getting to your workplace.
Talk to your child’s teacher
In the mornings, share with the teacher any news about medications, situations at home, or changes in schedule, such as an unusual bedtime, that may affect the way your child behaves that day. In the afternoons, find out how the day has gone. There may be circumstances you should consider when judging behavior. Many preschools give parents a daily written “report card,” telling what your child ate, how long he or she napped, and whether he or she was particularly happy or whiny.
Make time just for you
The transition from work back to parenthood is hard on you, too. Before you pick up your child, take a moment for a cup of coffee or listen to your favorite tape in the car. Release, relax, and feel better. Then you’ll find it’s easier to deal with your child’s demands.
Transition Time for Preschoolers in the school
Help Preschoolers Learn How to Change Activities without Tantrums
Preschoolers often have a difficult time with transitions. Learning how to effectively handle transitions is a gentle discipline skill that will help you and your child.
For young children, transitions can prove unsettling and can result in a tantrum. Children get engrossed in an activity, whether that be playing, watching television or spending time with the dog. When it’s time to change to the next activity, most children struggle with the transition. Many are so upset about changing activities that they tantrum or lash out at their parents.
Some common transitions that prove to be frequent trouble spots are bedtime, leaving the house, sitting down for a meal and bath time. Here are some tips that will make these and other transitions easier for most preschoolers.
Give Warnings before Changing Activities
Start with ten minute warnings before it’s time to end an activity. Then give warnings at intervals until the time is up. Abrupt changes in activity will be hard for most children. But, if the child knows a transition is coming and he has a chance to finish what he is doing, he is more likely to be agreeable.
Use a Timer to Signal the End of an Activity
Timers can be particularly effective tools at transition time for young children. When it’s time to give the ten minute warning, set the timer for ten minutes. Once the timer goes off, the child knows that it is time to move to the next activity.
Timers can also be used for children that drag their feet and have trouble completing tasks while transitioning. A child that takes a half hour to finish tooth brushing at bedtime can be challenged to brush his teeth in two minutes with the use of the timer. Many children will find it fun to race the timer to get their coats and shoes on when it’s time to leave the house.
Follow a Routine during Transitions
Preschoolers are especially responsive to routines. Each transition, especially those, like bedtime, that occur daily, should follow the same pattern every day. The starting time isn’t as important as a consistent routine during the transition.
A typical bedtime routine should always start the same way, have a few short activities, such as a story, and then end the same way. Your child may still protest when bedtime is announced, but once the routine is started, he will most likely settle down quickly as he enjoys the story and the time with his parent.
Practice Difficult Transitions Frequently
If the difficult transitions happen outside of the home at preschool or when visiting friends, you may want to practice with your child. Some children have trouble leaving a friend’s house at the end of a play date. Practice this transition at home. Keep the routine simple each time you do it. Soon, your child will settle into the familiarity of the routine and will be more cooperative the next time you are out.
If you find that your preschooler is having a difficult time with transitions at school, ask the teacher if you can observe a class. Then, practice the transitions that occur during a typical school day. Be sure to keep the routine the same as the teacher’s routine so that your child becomes comfortable with the expectations.
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